Reclaiming the Erotic Coaching
Reclaiming the Erotic Coaching Program
A 1:1 and group coaching experience for survivors of intimate partner violence
Reclaiming the Erotic is a transformative coaching experience for people who have survived intimate partner violence and are ready to step beyond survival—into a life of embodied pleasure, radical self-love, and erotic liberation.
Rooted in Black feminist wisdom, ritual medicine, movement, and herbal healing, this offering holds space for you to reclaim what is rightfully yours: your body, your voice, your desires, your joy.
What if your healing didn’t have to be quiet?
What if you could dance your grief, write your rage, reclaim your joy, and embody your power—without apology?
Reclaiming the Erotic is a coaching program for survivors who are no longer in active abusive relationships, but are ready to return to their bodies as sacred ground.
Ready to explore the erotic as a site of healing, truth, and transformation.
Ready to reclaim softness, pleasure, and the parts of themselves they were told to silence.
This is not your typical coaching space.
This is a sacred, sensual container built on the wisdom of Black feminism, ritual performance, plant medicine and more.
This is where we come home to ourselves.
This is for you if you’ve ever said:
“I don’t feel safe in my body.”
“I want to feel pleasure again… but I don’t know how.”
“I’ve survived, but I’m still holding the story in my bones.”
“I want softness, power, joy, and erotic freedom—but where do I start?”
“I’m tired of healing quietly. I want to take up space.”
I work with people of all backgrounds, however this is especially for you if you are:
A Black woman
queer
neurodivergent
diagnosed with a mood disorder
What We’ll Explore
Rooted Safety
We begin by grounding in nervous system regulation, consent practices, and body-based safety. We create a sacred container where you can slowly, gently rebuild trust—with yourself, your body, and others.
Healing Plant Medicine
Herbal baths, oils, teas alongside altar work, storytelling, and guided cacao ceremonies support your transformation.
Erotic Embodiment
Using breathwork, sensual movement, mirror work, and creative expression, you’ll connect to your erotic self—not just sexually, but as a life force. You’ll explore what feels good, safe, and sacred in your body. You’ll awaken your senses and rewrite your relationship to touch and pleasure.
Reclamation & Pleasure Rituals
We anchor the journey through rituals of release, renewal, and reclamation. We explore how pleasure is not frivolous—but foundational to healing. You’ll learn how to access pleasure as a source of strength, clarity, and creative fire.
Black Feminist Wisdom
Teachings from Audre Lorde, Alexis Pauline Gumbs, Assata and other Black radical healers + thinkers
Personal Coaching + Community Witness
One-on-one guidance or group support, voice note check-ins, journal prompts, and integration practices
🕯 What You Receive
Depending on the path you choose (private or cohort), your journey may include:
private coaching sessions (Zoom or in person)
WhatsApp support between sessions
A personalized Ritual Kit with herbs, oils, and sacred tools
A beautifully designed journal/workbook to track your erotic journey
Access to Erotic Flow movement medicine workshops (some online, some in person)
Affirmation, accountability, softness, and structure
💋 Choose Your Path
🌙 1:1 Private Coaching Journey
$100 - $200 sliding scale for hour long sessions
3-month or 6-month containers
Personalized, intuitive, and completely centered on you
🔥 Cohort-Based Program - Initiation: June 3rd 2025
Intimate 10 Week Container at $1500 - $2500 sliding scale
Guided journey with a small group of survivors
Includes live calls, group movement, shared ritual, and community care
Begins June 3rd, 2025
Apply to Reclaim Your Erotic Self
This program is for survivors.
It is not a substitute for crisis support. If you are still in an abusive relationship, please visit our Resources page below for safety planning and support.
If you’re ready to begin the next chapter of your healing—one that’s bold, beautiful, embodied, and free—
I invite you to join me.
Let’s reclaim your erotic together.
👉🏾 Apply to 1:1 Coaching
👉🏾 Apply to the June 2025 Group Coaching
“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation—and that is an act of political warfare.”
— Audre Lorde
“The erotic is a resource within each of us that lies in a deeply female and spiritual plane…firmly rooted in the power of our unexpressed or unrecognized feeling.”
— Audre Lorde
“I am deliberate and afraid of nothing.”
— Audre Lorde
“You don’t have to be me to be my sister.”
— Barbara Smith
“To tell the truth is to become beautiful, to begin to love yourself, value yourself.”
— June Jordan
“We must learn to mother ourselves.”
— bell hooks
💔 General Statistics on IPV (U.S.)
Did you know that it takes an average of seven times for a survivor to leave an abusive relationship?
1 in 3 women in the U.S. will experience intimate partner violence in their lifetime.
(Source: CDC, 2017 National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey)Over half of all female homicide victims are killed by a current or former male intimate partner.
(Source: CDC, 2020)Emotional abuse is the most common form of IPV, affecting more than 40 million women in the U.S.
(Source: National Domestic Violence Hotline)
🖤 Black Women & IPV
More than 45% of Black women have experienced intimate partner violence, sexual violence, or stalking in their lifetime.
(Source: Institute for Women’s Policy Research, 2017)Black women are 2.5 times more likely to be murdered by a man than white women—and nearly always by someone they know.
(Source: Violence Policy Center, 2021)Systemic racism, economic disparities, and criminalization of Black survivors create barriers to accessing support.
(Source: Black Women’s Blueprint & Ujima Inc.)
🌈 Queer & Trans Survivors
44% of lesbian women and 61% of bisexual women experience IPV in their lifetime.
(Source: CDC, NISVS 2010)54% of transgender individuals report experiencing intimate partner violence—including physical and sexual abuse.
(Source: U.S. Transgender Survey, 2015)LGBTQ+ survivors are less likely to be believed and more likely to face discrimination when seeking help.
(Source: The Network/La Red)
🧠 Survivorship & Mental Health
Survivors of IPV are 3 to 5 times more likely to experience depression, anxiety, and PTSD.
(Source: American Psychological Association)Many survivors also experience dissociation, body dysregulation, and challenges with pleasure or intimacy even years after leaving.
(Source: Trauma-informed therapy models & IPV survivor studies)
🌿 What These Numbers Mean
If you’ve experienced IPV, you are not alone.
You don’t have to minimize what happened to you.
Healing is nonlinear—but it is possible.
Your story matters. Your body matters. Your joy is revolutionary.
Resources for Survivors in Crisis
If you are currently in an abusive relationship, please know this: you are not alone, and you deserve to be safe.
Reclaiming the Erotic is a program for survivors who are no longer in active abusive relationships. If you are still navigating harm or planning to leave, this page offers support and resources to guide you through that process with care, safety, and love.
📞 Emergency & 24/7 Hotlines
National Domestic Violence Hotline (U.S.)
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) | thehotline.org
Confidential, 24/7 call, text, or chat support.
Love Is Respect (For Teens & Young Adults)
1-866-331-9474 | Text “LOVEIS” to 22522 | loveisrespect.org
Peer-centered help and education.
StrongHearts Native Helpline
1-844-762-8483 | strongheartshelpline.org
Culturally rooted support for Native American survivors.
Trans Lifeline
1-877-565-8860 | translifeline.org
Support by and for trans folks. Crisis and resource guidance.
🏠 Shelter & Local Resource Finders
DomesticShelters.org
domesticshelters.org
Find shelters, emergency housing, and local services.
WomensLaw.org – Help by State
womenslaw.org/find-help
State-specific legal help, hotlines, and shelters.
Black Women’s Blueprint
blackwomensblueprint.org
Trauma-informed healing and advocacy for Black women and girls.
The Network/La Red
tnlr.org
Support for LGBTQIA+, BIPOC, and disabled survivors.
🧭 Tools for Safety & Planning
myPlan App
myplanapp.org
A private, secure way to create a personalized safety plan.
Safety Planning Guide (The Hotline)
thehotline.org/plan-for-safety
Step-by-step guidance for safe exit planning.
Legal Help
womenslaw.org
Info on restraining orders, custody, housing, and immigration.
💛 You Deserve Safety & Support
You do not have to wait until things get “bad enough” to seek help.
Abuse can be emotional, verbal, physical, financial, digital, or spiritual.
Love should never hurt or diminish who you are.
You are worthy of care, freedom, and safety—always.
🌿 From My Heart to Yours
Leaving an abusive relationship is one of the most courageous and sacred acts of self-love.
You are not broken. You are not alone.
As you take steps toward your safety, know that I am holding you in deep care.
You are powerful. You are sacred. You are already beginning your healing.
— Nana Chinara